Maxwell thinks it’s because we never see the “hard work” in popular culture, or we don’t hear about it from our friends who might want us to think their sex life is enviable. But keeping things interesting, according to Maxwell, is “actual work.” Some people don’t realize that and rely on sparks alone.
Of course, that spark is also important. But so is communication and being open to new things.
If there’s a lag in the bedroom—whether it’s because of a new kid, work schedule, or just knowing each others’ hot spots so well that they’ve stopped being hot—having to put in some effort isn’t a sign of the end times. In fact, it could be an opportunity to have your mind blown with something new.
And if you start to think of your sex life as a work in progress, she’ll be happier, even if she doesn’t see things the same way.
“One of the coolest things I thought that we found with the sexual growth belief is that those beliefs can actually carry over and benefit your romantic partner,” Maxwell said.
So don’t worry if you and your partner need to put a little effort into your sex life. All the other happy couples are doing it, too.
Source: Men’s Health