8 Simple Ways to Make Your Marriage Last

Secrets to a Happy Marriage from Relationship Experts
Marriage is an evolving partnership that requires attention, effort, and love. Here’s a compilation of advice from psychologists, therapists, and marriage counselors who have studied relationships and apply these strategies in their own lives.
1. Prioritize Your Marriage
“The marriage is number one, the children are number two, and work is number three. When you put your marriage first, everything else, including your children, will thrive.”
— Harville Hendrix, Ph.D., coauthor of Making Marriage Simple
2. Reassess Needs Regularly
“The 7-year itch is real. Your needs will evolve over time. Every so often, ask your partner for three specific changes they’d like to see in your relationship and work together to meet those needs.”
— Robert Taibbi, L.C.S.W., author of Doing Couple Therapy
3. Keep Your Relationship Playful
“See your relationship as an ongoing adventure. Establish rituals and engage in playful activities, including fun and intimate moments, to maintain a deep emotional connection.”
— James Furrow, Ph.D., professor of marital and family therapy
4. Stop Keeping Score
“Don’t evaluate your relationship based on what your partner does for you. Instead, adopt a mindset of giving and forgiveness, creating an environment of mutual support.”
— Everett Worthington, Ph.D., professor of psychology
5. Communicate Openly
“Talking about past issues may not change them, but it relieves emotional burdens and prevents resentment from building up.”
— Charlie Bloom, M.S.W., coauthor of 101 Things I Wish I Knew When I Got Married
6. Rekindle the Past
“Revisit the activities you enjoyed together early in your relationship—like picnics or bike rides. These shared moments help remind you of why you fell in love.”
— Mark E. Young, Ph.D., professor at University of Central Florida
7. Accept Without Conditions
“True love comes from accepting your partner as they are, without trying to mold them into your expectations.”
— Allan Pleaner, M.F.T.
8. Show Gratitude and Compliments
“Express appreciation for the little things your partner does. Gratitude builds emotional resilience to weather tough times.”
— John W. Jacobs, M.D., author of All You Need is Love and Other Lies About Marriage
Takeaway
Marriage flourishes when it’s nurtured with love, respect, and commitment. Implement these expert strategies to strengthen your bond and build a lasting relationship.
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