Six Things to Never Say to Your Pregnant Wife
What Not to Say to Your Pregnant Wife: A Guide for Dads-to-Be
Pregnancy can be an emotional and physically challenging time for your wife. As an expectant father, it’s essential to be supportive, thoughtful, and mindful of what you say to avoid unnecessary stress or frustration. Here’s a quick guide, written by a dad who has learned the hard way, on what not to say to your pregnant wife.
1. Don’t Ask If You Can Buy a New Car
Although you may have big plans to purchase an old Holden ute (or any vehicle), this is not the time to bring it up. Your wife’s response will likely be a quick, “Don’t be stupid.” During pregnancy, finances are often redirected toward baby essentials like prams, cots, car seats, and other necessary items. So, save that conversation for a later time when the baby expenses have been covered!
2. Don’t Ask If There’s Any Chocolate or Mint Slices Left
Pregnancy cravings are real, and so is the competition for the last piece of chocolate. Asking if there’s any chocolate or mint slices left in the house is a risky move. You may get a response like, “Yes, there’s one mint slice left,” but remember, that could be the last piece of a whole packet that was once there!
3. Don’t Complain About Her Restlessness at Night
If your wife is tossing and turning at night, don’t say, “Please don’t bounce around so much.” It’s not her fault. As her pregnancy progresses, her body undergoes significant changes, and sleep can be elusive. Plus, the babies (or baby) could be making her move more than usual. Try to be understanding and patient during this phase.
4. Don’t Ask About Her Day Without Checking the Surroundings First
It’s not a bad idea to ask how her day was, but be cautious. If you walk into the house and see a stir fry on the floor (thanks to the toddler), a screaming child in her arms, or your wife rushing out for a walk, don’t proceed with the “How was your day?” question. It’s better to first acknowledge the chaos and offer a hand before asking.
5. Don’t Ask About Missing Clothes
If your favorite worn-in clothes have gone missing from your wardrobe, don’t ask your wife where they are. Chances are, they’re in the laundry because she’s been wearing them. The baby bump may make it a bit tricky to keep clothes clean, so don’t mention the stains—just be thankful she's making use of them!
6. Don’t Complain About Being Tired
It’s impossible to compete with your wife’s exhaustion. Even if you’ve had a long day at work and are feeling drained, remember, she’s growing a baby (or two). Complaining about being tired may lead to a response like, “Well, you’re not growing two babies!” And if you’re also struggling with a teething toddler, just know that your wife has likely been going through a lot more physically.
Cherish the Little Moments
While there may be stressful days during pregnancy, there are also small, joyful moments. Whether it’s hearing your child laugh or sharing a quiet moment as a family, these moments are the ones that will stick with you. Embrace them and remember that the big changes ahead are part of the exciting journey to parenthood.
Navigating pregnancy with empathy and patience is key to being the supportive partner your wife needs. By avoiding these common pitfalls, you’ll create a more positive environment for both of you as you prepare for the arrival of your little one.
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